Elena Sidorova
Reminder for parents. What should a child of the older group know and be able to (5-6 years old)
Acquaintance with the environment
Clarify children's ideas about objects, their essential features.
Be able to freely navigate in the room and on the site of the kindergarten
Learn to follow the rules of the road (walk on the pavement, cross the street in the indicated places, in accordance with the light signal).
Know the name of the city, the village where they live, the street.
Know the last name, First and middle name parents, home address
environmental education
about plants
Recognize and name 6-7 plants and their parts
be able to describe plants, noting the arrangement of leaves, shape, color, surface features
Choose and implement plant care methods (watering, spraying, dry cleaning). Carry out plant care in accordance with its biological needs
Determine how plants adapt to seasonal changes (buds appear, bloom, fruits appear, ripen, dormant)
know and name the signs of the living (grows, moves, feeds, reproduces)
about animals
Clarify ideas about the diversity of the animal world and the characteristic features of classes (feathers, down, wool, fur, etc.)
know basic life functions: nutrition, respiration, movement, reproduction, growth, development, etc.
be able to make connections between the environment and the structure of the body
Specify ideas about the manifestation feelings: hunger, pain, joy, affection
continue meet wild animals
Name 4-5 wintering birds, distinguish them by their appearance,
tell what they eat, why they stay for the winter.
about inanimate nature
To form elementary ideas about the transition of a substance from a solid state to a liquid and from a liquid to a solid (water turns to ice, ice turns to water)
Speech development
Correctly pronounce all sounds slowly, expressively
Use in speech nouns denoting professions; select several adjectives for a noun; be able to make pairs of antonyms (opposite words) and synonyms (words that sound different but have the same meaning)
Use simple and complex sentences in speech
Use direct and indirect speech
Maintain casual conversation
Compose (according to the model, plan) a short story about an object, picture, topic, proposed by an adult, and also fantasize on a free topic
Fiction
Determine the genre of the work; name your favorite fairy tales and stories.
show interest in voluminous works that are read chapter by chapter.
remember 2-3 program poems (if necessary, remind the child of the first lines, 2-3 counting rhymes, riddles.
Name your favorite children's writer.
Compare 2 groups of objects, expressed as numbers 9 and 10
What is the difference between a quadrilateral and a triangle. Construct a quadrilateral from two triangles. Know some characteristic features of geometric shapes (circle, triangle, square, oval, rectangle, trapezoid, pentagon) - the number of angles, sides, their equality and inequality
Determine the direction of movement away from you (right, left, forward, backward, up, down)
know sequence of days of the week, to associate with ordinal count
Navigate on a sheet of paper drawing
Place items of various sizes (up to 7-10) in ascending, descending order of their length, width, height, thickness; understand the relativity of the sign of the magnitude of objects
Compare adjacent numbers within 10 (based on clarity, determine which number is greater (less) another; equalize unequal groups items in two ways. (removing and adding a unit). Compare objects by eye (length, width, height, thickness); using overlay, application on the eye.
Place images on the entire sheet, on one line and on a wide strip, create patterns based on folk arts and crafts using dots, circles, curls, wavy lines, grass, flowers
Sculpt objects consisting of several parts
Use techniques for connecting parts of pressing and lubrication
Master the skill of round rolling
Possess the skill of rational division of plasticine
Use the stack
The ability to convey movement in modeling
Possession of the skills of accurate work with clay and plasticine.
Application
Properly hold scissors and use them
Combine cut and cut to create an expressive look
Use symmetrical cutting techniques from paper folded in half and accordion
Make patterns from floral and geometric shapes on a strip, square, circle, rosette, alternate them in color, shape, size and stick them in sequence
Construction
Learn to analyze a sample the buildings: identify the main parts and distinguish them by size and shape
Plan the stages of creating your own building
Create buildings according to the drawing
Work collectively
paper construction
Paper folding skills
Finger stroking of the fold
Ability to use blueprints
Terms knowledge: fold, dotted, hatching
Game activity.
By the end of the year, children may:
Negotiate with partners what to play, who will be in the game; obey the rules of the game.
Expand the content of the game depending on the number of children playing.
Use various sources of information to enrich the game (cinema, literature, excursions, etc.).
Create a creative object-play environment, use multifunctional material, substitute objects, etc.
In didactic games, evaluate your capabilities and perceive a loss without irritation
Explain the rules of the game to peers.
Independently monitor their appearance, neatness, perform hygiene procedures and healthy lifestyle rules. Strive for communication with peers, for respect and positive assessment from the communication partner. Developed fine motor skills, children began to draw better, cut, using different techniques. The children learned to communicate with each other (not always). A friendly team has formed! Mathematical representations are reduced to familiarization of the number series up to 10 and counting back. They easily divide words into syllables, have an idea of the parts of the day. Of course, everyone is different, with their own characteristics, characters.
Our next year group will get ready for school. When child reaches the age of six or seven years, and sometimes even earlier, many parents are concerned related to his admission to school. How to make it so child learns easily, enjoyed going to school, was a good or even the best student in the class? Is there a criterion that allows you to adequately assess the degree of preparedness child to school life? There is such a criterion, and in psychology it is called "school maturity", or psychological readiness child to schooling. This is our main task with you. Success depends on mental readiness. child at school. Hand preparation for writing, development of cognitive activity child. It is not scary if he cannot remember the letters, learn to read - at school he will learn everything if he goes to school with pleasure.
Speaking about the prospects of the educational process, I would like to talk about the subject-spatial developing environment of our groups. In accordance with the age, there are didactic games, visual materials, thematic corners (theater, hospital, home). Depending on the educational situation, it is transformed and supplemented. The play material is bright and attractive and changes periodically to keep children interested. We have been working on saturation for a year and will continue to work for the next one. But most importantly, all game materials, manuals are freely available for children. IN group there is a procedure and internal rules for the use of a particular material or manual. Of course, it is very important not only to make everything accessible, but also to help children use it correctly and rationally.
REMINDER FOR PARENTS
ORDER RULES IN DOW
Our kindergarten works from 07.30 to 19.30 hours. Working days from Monday to Friday. Days off are Saturday, Sunday and national holidays.
Reception of children in the preschool educational institution is carried out from 07.30 to 08.30 hours.
IMPORTANT: the timely arrival and departure of the child is a necessary condition for the correct implementation of the educational process. If you brought your child after the beginning of any regimen, please undress him and wait with him in the locker room until the next break.
The impossibility of a child coming to kindergarten due to illness or other good reason must be reported to the preschool educational institution before 10.00 by phone 246-61 (head, medical worker, group teacher).
Inform the preschool educational institution in a timely manner about the child's exit after illness or leave to provide him with food, inform the teacher or nurse about this the day before the exit.
IMPORTANT: Parents, after an illness, you must bring a healthy child to kindergarten! An untreated child will not only get sick himself, but can also infect healthy children.
In the absence of a child, a written application is made to the head of the MBDOU to save a place in kindergarten (vacation, home regime, etc.). A child who does not attend kindergarten for more than three days must have a certificate from a doctor; when returning after a longer absence or absence in the summer, a certificate of the child's health is provided.
IMPORTANT: timely resolve issues with teachers and the administration of the preschool educational institution, preventing the presence of children in resolving conflicts. Do not allow physical and mental violence, offensive statements about your child, other children, their parents (legal representatives), as well as employees of the preschool educational institution.
IMPORTANT: Personally transfer and pick up the child from the caregiver, without transferring the child to persons under the age of majority.
IMPORTANT: Inform the head of the MBDOU in writing about the transfer of the right to pick up the child from the preschool educational institution to relatives or other adults.
IMPORTANT: Bring the child to the preschool in a neat appearance, clean clothes and shoes for the season, provide him with a change of underwear, sportswear, shoes for physical education and music classes, an individual comb and a handkerchief.
PROCEDURE FOR COLLECTING CHILD SUPPORT
REQUIREMENTS FOR THE APPEARANCE AND CLOTHING OF CHILDREN
What a neat, tidy and well-groomed child should look like:
To cultivate cultural and hygienic skills in a child and create comfortable conditions for his stay in a preschool educational institution, it is necessary:
IMPORTANT: Before taking your child to kindergarten, check whether his clothes are appropriate for the season and air temperature. Remember, excessive wrapping or insufficiently warm clothing can make a child sick!
IMPORTANT: To avoid injury, parents should check the contents of the pockets in the child's clothing for the presence of dangerous items. It is strictly forbidden to bring sharp, cutting, glass objects (scissors, knives, pins, nails, wire, mirrors, glass bottles), as well as small objects (beads, buttons, etc.), tablets to the preschool.
In addition, it is forbidden to give a child chewing gum, sucking sweets, chips, crackers and other products with them to kindergarten.
It is forbidden to leave strollers and sleds in the premises of the kindergarten according to fire safety rules and sanitary standards.
IMPORTANT: According to the rules of communication ethics, group teachers, regardless of their age, must address you, by name and patronymic. Teach this to a child. Disputes must be resolved in a calm and businesslike atmosphere, indicating the reasons for the dispute and involving the administration. Parents, remember! Conflict disputes must be resolved in the absence of children. If you could not resolve any issue with the teachers of the group, contact the head.
Reminders for parents "Rules for parents".
Dear Parents!
1 . Children must be brought before 08:00 am. The time sheet and menu are filled out before 08.30, which means that meals for the child on the day of delay are not issued. If you are still late, ALWAYS notify the teacher by phone.
2 . When you arrive in the morning, say hello to the kindergarten staff, especially the teachers, because every day they replace your children with moms and dads. The teachers of the group, regardless of their age, must be addressed to you, by name and patronymic.
3 . Make a payment for the maintenance of a child in a preschool educational institution no later than the 10th day of each month. Submit your payment receipt on time. If the child does not attend kindergarten due to illness, vacation, etc.., parents must pick up the receipt and pay it on time. Respond appropriately to questions about timely unpaid payments.
4. We pay great attention to the safety of life and health of your child, from which a few more points follow: - ONLY the parent brings and picks up the child and(or) a trustee with the written permission of the parent; -Children under the age of 18 are not allowed to pick up a child from kindergarten.
5. On the eve of the alleged absence of a child in kindergarten for family reasons (vacation, summer period, spa treatment, etc.), inform the teacher!
6. Do not bring any medicines to kindergarten, because neither teachers nor even a nurse have the right to give children medicines in kindergarten.
7 . If your child suffers from established allergic reactions (food, flowers, pollen, hair, medicines, insect bites, etc.), be sure to indicate this fact in a conversation with a nurse and educator in your group.
8. If during the day the child has the first signs of the disease (fever, vomiting, rashes, diarrhea), parentswill be notified immediately and will have to pick up the child from the medical isolation ward of the kindergarten as soon as possible.
9 . It is not allowed to bring pistols, sabers, swords, nail polish, lipsticks, perfumes, etc., chewing gum, sweets to treat your friends to the group. If we want to treat, then we bring all the children, or we don’t bring it. We bring toys from home if we let others play.
10. Necessarily spare things in the locker, there must be panties, a T-shirt, socks, tights, trousers. Girls need to bring a comb.
11. It is necessary to promptly report a change in the address of the place of residence, a change in the contact phone number to educators.
12 . Parents are asked to participate in the life of the groupand kindergarten in the design of the site, group. Participate in competitions, events dedicated to the holidays.
Thank you for following the rules!
MEMO #1.
REMINDER TO PARENTS from a child
My actions are not a mortal sin!
DO NOT spoil me, you spoil me with this. I know very well that it is not necessary to give me everything I ask. I'm just testing you!
Don't be afraid to be firm with me. I prefer this approach.
DO NOT rely on force in dealing with me. This will teach me that it is necessary to reckon only with force.
Do NOT be inconsistent. This confuses me and makes me stubbornly try to leave the last word to myself in all cases.
DO NOT make promises that you cannot keep. This undermines my faith in you!
DO NOT make me feel younger than I really am.
DO NOT do for me and for me what I can do for myself.
REMINDER 2.
When by no means
You can not punish and scold children.
When a child is sick, unwell, or has not yet recovered from an illness. During this period, the child's psyche is very vulnerable, the consequences are not predictable.
When the child eats, during play or work.
Immediately after a child has been physically or mentally injured. For example, he fell, fought, failed, even if he himself is to blame.
When a child strives, but cannot overcome fear, inattention, etc.
When he seems incapable, clumsy, stupid to you.
When the child is mobile, which makes you nervous.
When you are in a bad mood or very angry. When you are tired, irritated by something. The anger that you bring down on children in such a case is always excessive and unfair. Agree that in such circumstances, we simply break down on children.
MEMO #3
How to make exercise a habit
You need to teach your child to gymnastics from 2-3 years.
Charge every day no matter what ` circumstances.
Turn morning exercises into a holiday of vivacity and uplifting of the spirit.
Play upbeat and upbeat music.
Exercise with your child.
Charge for at least 10 minutes.
Open windows and curtains to let in fresh air.
Notice and emphasize the achievements of your child in the exercise.
Change exercises if they bored the child.
How to spend wellness minutes while doing homework
Wellness minute is carried out every 15-20 minutes.
The total duration of a minute is not more than 3 minutes.
If the child is doing a written task, you need to do an exercise for the hands
After a long sitting, it is necessary to do stretching, squatting, turning the body.
Make sure that your house has a ball, rope, hoop, dumbbells.
Gymnastics for fingers
Put the palms of the hands on the table; raise the fingers one at a time, first of the left hand, and then of the right, and in the reverse order.
Press the palms firmly against the table and gradually bend the middle, then the index, then the thumb, while the rest of the fingers should gradually rise up.
Squeeze your fingers into a fist and rotate the brush in different directions.
Put your hands on your elbow, open your fingers as wide as possible and, slowly connecting them, lower your hands.
Roll a small ball on the table with turns in different directions
Lay the sticks flat on the table.
Memo No. 4.
Parents of first graders
1. Only together with the school it is possible to achieve the desired results in the upbringing and education of children. The teacher is your first ally and friend of your family. Consult with him, support his authority. Make comments about the teacher's work; at school, at meetings. This must not be done in the presence of children.
2. Be sure to attend all classes and meetings for parents. If you can't, tell the teacher in person or by note through the child.
3. Take an interest in your child’s academic progress every day (ask: “What did you learn new today?” Instead of the traditional: “What grade did you get today?”). Rejoice in successes, do not be annoyed by every failure that has befallen a son or daughter.
4. Check homework regularly and provide reasonable assistance with it if you can. Help and control should not be drill, annoying moralizing, exhausting the child. The main thing is to arouse interest in learning.
5. When checking homework, aim your child to be able to prove the correctness of the completed assignment, give their own examples. Ask more often: “Why?”, “Prove”, “Is it possible in a different way?”
6. Encourage the child to participate in all activities related to him, held in the classroom, at school.
8. Be sure to provide all possible assistance to the school!
MEMO #5
How to raise a book reader?
The first books of the child should be colorfully designed, then they will interest you even before reading. At the same time, they should not consist of illustrations, then their meaning will be clear after a cursory glance, and the desire to read will disappear.
It is better if the book has a breakdown into small chapters or it consists of small completed stories.
Adults should remember how much depends on their attitude to the child's reading. Be sure to talk about what you read. Praise those, even if not everything was “smooth”.
A culture of reading should be nurtured. If you start, read to the end. The book should be read sequentially, without jumping from page to page and without looking to the end.
Offer to draw a picture for the most interesting passage from the book or memorize it.
Children should see their parents reading. Their imitative ability will “work” in such a situation for a result.
The house must have a children's library, which is periodically replenished.
Find your favorite children's books. Tell your child about them.
Read them together. Tell us about the role they played in your life.
Closely follow the extracurricular reading program.
Start a "family reader's diary”, where each of the family members briefly (perhaps even in one sentence) writes down his impression of what he read.
Praise your child often for reading.
MEMO 6.
Accept the child as he is, with all the advantages and disadvantages.
MEMO #7
12 tips for parents of future first graders
Back to school soon... This fall or next year, your child will cross the threshold. In an effort to help them take this step with confidence, parents sometimes go off their feet looking for institutions and private practitioners to prepare their children for the admissions interview. And a simple truth is forgotten: education can make a child smart, but only sincere, reasonably organized communication with loved ones and loved ones - the family - makes him happy. It is in your power to create just such an environment in the family that will not only prepare the child for successful studies, but also allow him to take a worthy place among his classmates and feel comfortable at school.
1. Share with your child more often memories of happy moments in your past.
The beginning of school life is a big test for a little person. This moment is more easily experienced by children who have developed a warm attitude towards school in advance.
This attitude is made up of contact with the past experience of loved ones.
Scroll through the family photo archive with your child. This activity is extremely beneficial for all family members. Returning to the best moments of the past makes a person stronger and more self-confident.
Your good memories of school years, funny stories from school life and stories about childhood friends will fill the child's soul with joyful expectation.
2. Help your child acquire information that will allow him not to get lost.
As a rule, children of this age answer the question: "What is your mother's name?" - answer: "Mom."
Make sure your child remembers their full name, phone number, home address, parents' names. This will help him in an unfamiliar situation.
3. Teach your child to keep their belongings in order.
The success of a child in school largely depends on how he knows how to organize his workplace. You can make this boring procedure more attractive. Prepare the child’s workplace in the family in advance: let him have his own desktop, his own pens and pencils (pencils will have to be sharpened at first for you, dear parents). All this is like in adults, but - the personal property of the child! And the responsibility for the order is also personal, because adults have it.
4. Do not scare your child with difficulties and failures at school.
Many children of this age are restless. Not everyone is brilliant at reading and counting. It is very difficult for many people to wake up in the morning and quickly collect them for kindergarten. In this regard, it is quite understandable that parents want to warn their children about upcoming troubles. “They won’t take them to school ...”, “They will put deuces ...”, “They will laugh in the class ...”
In some cases, these measures may be successful. But the long-term consequences are always dire.
5. Do not try to be a teacher for the child.
Strive to maintain friendly relations.
Some children have difficulty communicating with other children. They may become confused in the presence of unfamiliar adults.
You can help your child overcome these difficulties. Try to organize a game for children in the playground near the house and take part in this game. Children love to play with their parents.
Encourage your child to invite their friends to their birthday party. This day will become unforgettable for him if there is a place in the celebration program for children and adults to play together.
Let your child feel that he can count on your support in any situation. It is impossible to achieve this only by training sessions with a child.
6. Teach your child how to react to failure
Your child was the last in the game and defiantly refused to play with friends further.
Help him deal with disappointment.
Invite the children to play again, but slightly change the rules of the game.
Let only the first one be considered the winner, and all the rest be losers.
Celebrate the success of each as the game progresses. Encourage chronic losers with hope.
After the game, pay the attention of the child to how the other players reacted to the loss. Let him feel the intrinsic value of the game, not the win.
7. A child's good manners are a mirror of family relationships.
“Thank you”, “Excuse me”, “Can I...” should enter the speech of the child before school.
It is difficult to achieve this with moral teachings and sermons.
Try to exclude orders and commands from communication between family members: “So that I don’t hear this again!”, “Take out the trash.” Turn them into polite requests. The child will certainly copy your style. After all, he loves you and seeks to imitate you in everything.
8. Help your child gain a sense of self-confidence
The child should feel in any environment as natural as at home.
Teach your child to be attentive to their needs, to communicate them to adults in a timely and natural way.
On a walk you went somewhere to eat. Encourage your child to place an order for themselves. Next time, let's make an order for the whole family.
Let him try to ask in the clinic: "Where is the toilet?" or he will take a turn to a specialist.
9. Teach your child to be independent in everyday life
The more a child can do on his own, the more mature he feels.
Teach your child to undress and hang up their own clothes, fasten buttons and zippers. (Remember that small fingers can only handle large buttons and zippers.)
Tying bows on your shoelaces will require special help and attention from you. It is desirable if it is not on the eve of going out into the street. It is better to dedicate a few evenings to this activity.
10. Teach your child to make their own decisions.
The ability to make independent choices develops a sense of self-respect in a person.
Ask your child about the family Sunday lunch menu.
Let him choose his own dish for festive table and choose clothes appropriate for the weather. An even more difficult task is planning family leisure activities for the weekend.
11. Strive to make every moment of communication with your child useful.
If your child helps you bake a birthday cake, introduce him to the basic measures of volume and mass.
Grocery supermarkets are a very suitable place for developing attention and active listening of a child. Ask the child to put in the basket: three packs of cookies, a pack of butter, a loaf of white and a loaf of black bread. State your request immediately and do not repeat it again.
The child helps you set the table. Ask him to put four deep plates on the table, put a spoon next to each plate on the right. Ask: how many spoons do you need?
The child is getting ready for bed. Suggest that he wash his hands, hang a towel on his hook, turn off the light in the bathroom.
When walking down the street or in a store, draw your child's attention to the inscription words that surround us everywhere. Explain their meaning.
Count the trees, the steps passing by the car
12. Teach your child to feel and be surprised, encourage his curiosity
Draw his attention to the first spring flowers and the colors of the autumn forest.
Take him to the zoo and together find the biggest animal, then the tallest...
Watch the weather and the outlines of the clouds.
Keep a handwritten journal of your kitten's growth.
Teach your child to feel. Experience openly with him all the events of daily life, and his curiosity will grow into the joy of learning.
MEMO #8
Commandments for parents.
Parents!
Remember that you are people too.
Give yourself a rest.
Do not demand the impossible from yourself.
Don't try to do "what's best".
Consider where this might lead.
Be generous: help your children find a common language with you.
Love each other. Try to talk about it, learn to express your love in words.
MEMO #9
Parents with one child.
Developing the abilities of a child, one should not educate in him the consciousness of his exclusivity. This almost always leads to disappointment, dissatisfaction, conflicts with comrades. And unfulfilled heightened claims, defeats in disputes, and sometimes in quarrels with peers, have a painful effect on such children.
Paying attention to the only child, you need to make sure that “he does not take root in egoistic inclinations. Selfishness gives rise to exactingness, claims to others. Some parents, blinded by love for their only child, sometimes do not notice or do not consider it necessary to notice the inadmissibility of his actions. For others, it causes protest, hostility. Children do not like those who seek to stand out. And a child who is not accustomed to a fair assessment of his actions, most of which were assessed positively by adults (even if they were not such), getting into a new team, for a long time cannot find his place in it, in fact, remains alone in the team.
In families where the only child is growing up, it is advisable to encourage and even organize his own communication with peers: invite them to visit, go to the theater with several families, go on excursions, etc. Meeting with children only in the classroom to meet the child's need for communication not enough. At home, in the family, in the circle of close people, new features and qualities are revealed in him. Here he is the host, receiving guests. The laws of hospitality force one to be more compliant, benevolent, and caring.
MEMO #10
Smile more often! Even when you don't want to. Children should not see us angry and gloomy, without a smile addressed to them.
Treasure every minute spent with your child! Look, listen, study it, “soak it in”, get to know it. Look at your children often when they are sleeping.
Look into the eyes of the child more often and praise the child more often: “you are beautiful, well done, smart, good.”
Do not fight with children. Know how to forgive children and ask for their forgiveness. Go to reconciliation first.
Say the word “can” more often. Before your eyes, with your help, so that all this is possible, why do something on the sly and looking back, if you can openly and honestly.
Sometimes (rarely) pamper your child.
Do not rush your children to grow up.
Treat the child as an equal to yourself, respect his motives - children have the right to be who they are.
Trust your child.
Do not sort out your relationship with the child.
Moral purity echoes the purity of the room where the child lives.
You can order not only with a stick, but also with a request and a gentle look.
Most importantly: your own behavior remains the most powerful way to influence the child - it will be an example in everything! Family happiness to you.
MEMO #11
Excellent student complex
“To be the best and the first in everything” - such a subconscious attitude is often given to the firstborn. After all, there are usually so many adults around him: mom and dad, two sets of grandparents ... However, if this is the child of a single mother, expectations will not decrease at all. They can even be reinforced by mom's overprotectiveness - after all, we are "together against such a dangerous world."
The child has a conviction that it is not he who is valuable, but his successes. Without them, there is no love of loved ones. School only reinforces this confidence, especially if learning is easy, and as a result, an excellent student complex is formed - an extreme degree of obsessive desire to be better and more successful than others. The student becomes overly punctual and anxious, does not know how to get along with his peers, his increased sense of duty borders on neurosis.
Stop communicating with the child as an equal, love him because he is still small and yours.
The father should also soften his image of the superman a little, allow himself the right to make a mistake. The child should see that dad sometimes fails, and the world does not collapse because of this.
Help your child to establish contact with peers, hold house parties, encourage him to participate in extracurricular activities.
Limit some parental controls. Apparently, it is too noticeable, since your child is not accepted in companies.
Do not intimidate with life, but share your hopes. Everything should be common - both joy and tears. Joint experiences, dreams unite and strengthen the family.
MEMO #12
Ten tips for fathers and mothers
1. Accept the child as he is.
2. Never order on a whim. You don't need complete orders.
Not interfering in a child's life is just as dangerous as interfering incessantly.
3. Never make decisions alone. The golden rule of family life is diarchy. When father and mother contradict each other, this is an entertaining sight for a child.
4. Keep trust in someone who will contradict you.
5. In terms of gifts - no frills. We have forgotten how to refuse children. Refusal brings more benefit, because it teaches you to distinguish the necessary from the superfluous.
6. Lead by example in everything. You can only achieve what you do yourself.
7. Talk about everything without fear. Speech is gold and silence is lead.
8. Connect with yours. The family is a private republic. Everything should be done together: home crafts, washing dishes, shopping, cleaning, choosing entertainment, travel routes.
9. Keep the door open. Sooner or later you will not keep children, teenagers, youth in the house. It's never too early to learn freedom.
10. Get out at the right time! This commandment invariably evokes sadness. Sooner or later parents will be left alone. There's nothing to be done: any parenting career involves this sacrifice.
(From the book of the French writer Heree Bazin "What I believe")
MEMO #13
Behavior of parents with conflict children
Restrain the child's desire to provoke quarrels with friends. You need to pay attention to unfriendly glances at each other or muttering something with resentment under your breath. Of course, all parents have moments when they have no time or no strength to control their children. And then, most often, “storms” break out.
Do not seek to end the quarrel by blaming another child for its occurrence and defending your own. Try to objectively understand the causes of its occurrence.
After the conflict, discuss with the child the reasons for its occurrence, identify the wrong actions of your child that led to the conflict. Try to find other possible ways out of the conflict situation.
Do not discuss behavior problems in front of your child. He can establish himself in the idea that conflicts are inevitable, and will continue to provoke them.
It is not always necessary to intervene in children's quarrels. For example, when two boys did not share something during the game and began to quarrel, it is better to observe this conflict, but not interfere in it, since the children themselves will be able to find a common language, and at the same time they learn to communicate with each other. If, during quarrels, one of them always wins, and the other acts as a "victim", such a game should be interrupted in order to prevent the formation of timidity in the loser.
MEMO #14
Parents of closed children
Expand your child's social circle, take him to new places and meet new people.
Emphasize the benefits and usefulness of communication, tell the child what new and interesting things you learned, as well as what pleasure you got when communicating with this or that person.
Strive to become an example for the child effectively
communicating person.
If you notice that, despite your efforts, your child is becoming more and more withdrawn and withdrawn, seek the advice of a psychologist who will professionally help you solve this problem.
MEMO #15
Parents of shy children
Expand your child's circle of acquaintances, invite friends to your place more often, take him to visit familiar people, expand walking routes, teach your child to be calm about new places.
You should not constantly worry about the child, strive to completely protect him from all sorts of dangers, mostly invented by you, do not try to do everything for the child yourself, prevent any difficulties, give him a certain measure of freedom and open actions.
Constantly strengthen the child's self-confidence, in their own abilities.
Involve the child in the implementation of various tasks related to communication, create situations in which shy child would have to come into contact with "foreign" adults.
For example: “We need to find out what this interesting book with wonderful pictures is about. Let's ask a librarian or a salesperson and ask them to let us see it." Usually, in such a situation of “forced” communication, for example, at a doctor’s appointment, in a children’s library, visiting a neighbor, the child is initially so constrained that he greets only in a whisper, averting his eyes, and not looking up from his mother’s hand. But, leaving, he says goodbye loudly and distinctly, sometimes even smiles.
REMEMBER 16.
Parents of restless children
Avoid extremes: you can’t allow a child to do whatever he wants, but you can’t forbid everything, clearly decide for yourself what is possible and what is not, and agree on this with all family members.
With your behavior, set an example for your child: restrain your emotions, because he imitates you in his behavior.
Give the child enough attention, let him never feel forgotten, but at the same time explain to the child that there are times when you have other worries, you need to understand and accept this.
Remember that hysterical attacks are most often associated with a desire to attract attention or arouse pity and sympathy. You don’t need to indulge the child, you don’t need to change your requirements, it’s better, when the child calms down, to explain to him why you did this and not otherwise.
MEMO #17
Parents!
If a child lives in criticism, he learns to condemn.
If a child lives in hostility, he learns to fight.
If a child grows up in fear, he learns to foresee evil.
If a child grows up in pity, he learns to pity himself.
If a child grows up with ridicule, he learns to be withdrawn.
If a child grows up in jealousy, he learns to envy.
If a child grows up with a sense of shame, he learns to be guilty.
If a child grows up in a supportive environment, he learns to be reliable.
If a child grows up in an environment of tolerance, he learns to be patient.
If a child grows up in praise, he learns to be grateful.
If a child grows up in an atmosphere of approval, he learns to like himself.
If a child grows up in compassion, he learns to be generous.
If a child grows up in honesty and justice, he learns to distinguish between good and evil.
If a child lives in faith, he learns to believe in himself and in others.
If a child is surrounded by friendliness, he knows that the world is a beautiful place.
MEMO #18
ABC of education
1. Tomorrow, when your child wakes up, tell him: “Good morning!” and... don't wait for an answer. Start the day cheerfully, and not with remarks and quarrels.
2. When you scold a child, do not use the words “you always...”, “you generally ...”, “you always ...”. Your child is generally good. He just did something wrong today. Tell him about it.
3. Do not part with the child in a quarrel, first make peace, and then go about your business.
4. Usually, when a child returns from school, he is asked: “Have you been called? What grade did you get?" Better ask him: "What was interesting today?".
5. Try to keep the child attached to the house, to the four walls in which the family lives. Returning home, do not forget to say: “But still, how good it is at home!”.
6. When you want to tell your child "Don't lie, don't lie, don't cheat," say better: "Don't cheat." Better yet, smile: “It seems that someone is telling a lie.”
7. When the child leaves the house, be sure to walk him to the door and say to the road: "Take your time, be careful."
8. When a son or daughter returns home, meet them at the door. The child should know that you are glad for his arrival, even if he is guilty.
9. Instill in your child the well-known mental health formula: “You are good, but not better than others.”
10. Tell your child: “Don’t be clean - they don’t like clean people in the class, don’t be dirty - they don’t like dirty people in the class. Just be careful."
11. It happens like this: dad leaves in the morning - the boy is still sleeping, comes in - the boy is already sleeping, and on Sunday dad is fishing. But at least after fishing, ask your son: “How are you?”.
12. When a child is enthusiastically playing alone, try not to disturb him, not even meet his eyes, so as not to destroy the world that he created in the game.
13. Never reproach a child with either his age: “You are already big”, or gender: “And also a boy”, or a piece of bread: “We feed you”.
14. Try not to criticize anyone in front of children. Today you will say bad things about your neighbor, and tomorrow the children will say bad things about you.
15. Remember how long ago you heard children's laughter in your house. The more often children laugh, the better education goes.
MEMO #19
Parents of a first grader
Be sure to agree with the teacher and the school doctor the basic requirements of the daily routine;
Together with the child, make up his daily routine, agree on permanent labor affairs. Achieve complete unity in the presentation of requirements for the child by all adult family members regarding the implementation of the daily routine;
For the first 2-3 weeks, help the baby get used to the regimen, teach him to control himself during a walk (do not spend too much time). Remind about work responsibilities;
Do not forgive any non-fulfillment of the daily regimen unjustified by emergency events. Achieve quality work performance. Bad and carelessly done work must be redone;
Evaluate the work of the child, encourage (verbally) his diligence, diligence, perseverance;
Show your dissatisfaction with the disruption and non-fulfillment of the daily routine;
Be an example to your child. Personal example is a great educational force. Let the child see that you also have a daily routine, that you get up and go to bed on time, know how to save time, that everyone in the family has work assignments and unquestioningly fulfills them, etc.
MEMO #20
Parents of a first grader
First of all, it is worth remembering the old and reliable ways of maintaining the health of a first grader. This is the observance of the daily routine: sleep at least 10 hours a day, good nutrition, physical exercises. It would be justified to limit the viewing of television programs to 30 minutes a day. Long (up to two hours) walks in the air are good for restoring the emotional well-being of the child - not a walk in the shops, but a walk in the park. From early morning, set your child up for a good attitude towards everything. Tell him "Good morning!" – and get ready for school without fuss.
When you come to school with your child, try to do without morals, as they give nothing but morning fatigue. But it is necessary to explain the safe way to school to the child. The safe path is not necessarily the shortest, so it's best to leave the house early.
Meeting the child at school after school, rejoice with him that he managed to work on his own, without you, for three whole hours. Patiently listen to him, praise, support and in no case scold him - after all, there is nothing for it yet.
What to do if the first difficulties appear? Be generous with praise, for a first grader, this is very important now. The comment should be specific and not about the child's personality. He's not a slob, he just has a little mess in his notebooks right now. Do not make several remarks to the child at once.
Never compare your child with other children. This leads either to anger or to the formation of self-doubt.
MEMO No. 21.
Development of the child's creative abilities
If a child is drawn to creativity, it should not be limited to standard sheet sizes of paper, pencils and felt-tip pens. The creativity of the child should not suffer from the absence of any materials. Even if parents do not know how to draw, fantasize, they can still contribute to the development of the child's creative abilities - create conditions, support, educate him in love and desire for beauty. Adults should clearly capture the interests of children, develop their creative imagination.
1. Be surprised, worry, rejoice with your child.
2. The child must have maximum freedom to take the initiative and the necessary space for this.
3. The child should not have a lack of a variety of material for creativity.
4. Give your child the opportunity to experiment.
5. The work of the child should not be criticized.
6. Works selected by the child should be hung in a convenient place.
7. Help him make his own plans and decisions.
8. Take your child on trips to interesting places.
9. Help your child connect with peers from different cultural backgrounds.
10. Teach your child to prepare the workplace on their own and clean it up after work is done.
MEMO No. 22.
Child draws a family
Dear parents, if you want to know how your child feels in the family or how he treats relatives, offer him the task: “Draw your family”
If the child draws himself in the center, don't worry - he draws from the position of his vision. This is his world, in which he is the main sorcerer.
If he draws only himself, then he is lonely.
Usually, after himself, the child draws the one whom he considers the main one in the family. If he painted the pet second, then the child is lonely.
If someone did not draw, he may be offended by him.
And if a child draws all the relatives together holding hands, then in your family he is surrounded by love and attention of loved ones.
If there is little communication in the family, then the child does not draw mom and dad far from each other, with a barrier.
If someone is depicted without a mouth, without arms or with very long arms, then the baby is afraid of this person because they are shouting at him, they are severely punished.
If someone is drawn with thumbs (like a “scarecrow”), the world seems uncomfortable to the child.
Disproportionately thick legs - tense atmosphere in the family; very long legs - the desire for independence.
For a loved one, the child will take the same colors with which he painted himself.
A very contrasting image is a sign of an unresolved conflict for the child.
If the child is assertive, active, the colors will be warm.
Cold colors - the character of the child is characterized by daydreaming, thoughtfulness.
Love for freedom, independence - if, when coloring, it jumps out of the contour with a pencil.
Accurate shading, but in the presence of uncolored stripes, indicates uncertainty, defenselessness.
MEMO No. 23.
Letter to parents of younger students
Your children in the classroom at school get acquainted with the basic rules of health saving. Pupils are taught to take care of public property, keep cleanliness and order in public places, in their yard, at home. Please:
Talk to your child about the importance of keeping public places clean and tidy.
Pay your child's attention to the state of your yard, your street.
Teach your child:
Maintain cleanliness and order in public places, in your yard, house;
Do not litter in public places, yard;
Do not write, do not draw on the walls of houses, entrances, do not dirty them;
Make sure that younger children do not commit these actions;
Does your child meet these requirements?
Organize a general cleaning around the house. Plant shrubs, trees, flowers.
By personal example, teach your child not to litter in the forest when walking for mushrooms, berries, not to throw wrappers, cans, bottles.
To make your child always look neat, teach him:
brush your teeth daily at least 2 times a day;
wash daily in the shower;
take care of your clothes and shoes;
change underwear, stockings, socks daily;
wash your socks and handkerchiefs daily;
always have a clean handkerchief, mirror, comb with you;
wash your hair at least once a week;
We thank you and ask you to continue teaching your child the basic rules of personal and public hygiene.
MEMO No. 23.
Leading hand test
Open several matchboxes in search of a hidden bead. Carefully observe which hand is doing the active action: opens, closes the boxes?
Draw a house, a tree, a little man, first with the left hand, then with the right.
Which drawing is the best?
Put a tennis ball in front of the child not under the left and not under the right hand, but in the middle. Which hand will he throw the ball to you with?
Build a house or a square, a triangle of matches, first with one hand, then with the other. What's more accurate?
Untie a few lightly tied knots on the cord. The hand that ties the knot, but does not hold, is considered the main one.
Unscrew and screw the nut of the children's construction set.
Fasten or unbutton the buttons.
Put the buttons in the box.
Lay out the LOTTO cards. The main, leading hand lays out the cards, the other holds.
Take a few beads out of the box with a spoon. Which hand is easier to do?
For each task, put a plus on the right or left hand. Find out if the family is left-handed, and if there is, then one more plus in the “left hand” column.
MEMO No. 24.
Homework
Make it a rule: to help the child in such a way as to contribute to the development of his abilities and independence. The following tips are listed in order so that each one is more supportive than the previous one.
© Explain to your child that you think he is capable of doing everything on his own. But be warned: "If it doesn't work at all, you can ask me"
© Offer to check assignments: "If you want, I'll look at your solution later."
© Praise your child for intermediate results. It motivates and gives confidence.
© First of all, try to find out why the case stalled by asking questions: “How did you calculate it?” or “Where did you get that number from?”
© Do not offer other solutions if the child cannot figure it out.
© Give specific instructions if the child made a mistake: “You got the result: 15, but wrote a completely different number.” Or solve those examples in several stages.
© Do not prompt the child if you feel that now he can confidently complete everything alone.
© Talk to the teacher about gaps in your child's knowledge and ask for advice. If you explain solutions to your child in the same way that they are explained at school, you will avoid the risk of confusing the child.
© Limit homework help to exceptional cases: a long illness or too difficult material. If you are with a child, try not to interfere and, as far as possible, stay away, allowing the child to think, decide, count and articulate as much as he can.
MEMO #25
Show your children more often how much you love them, do not hide it.
Spend as much time as possible with the whole family, discussing the day, sharing problems, consulting with each other.
Do not be afraid to ask your child for advice - this will only bring you closer.
Try to make sure that your child's friends are in your house - you must know them well.
Discuss the problem calmly, without shouting and irritation, then your child will not hide anything from you.
Do not force the child to trust his secrets: “We should all know about you” - this will not achieve anything.
You will be trusted if you are not just parents, but friends who can understand and empathize.
Be an example for the child: after all, as you treat your parents now, so you will be treated in old age.
Remember that a child is a guest in your home who will eventually leave his native nest. And it is necessary to educate him so that he never forgets his family and the warmth of his home.
Go to school more often.
Do not forget the words of the famous teacher V. Sukhomlinsky: "The most complete education, as you know, is school and family."
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